[2] 성공하는 사람들의 7가지 습관 The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

아마존에서 비즈니스분야 베스트셀러라고 합니다.

1989년에 출판되었으니까 거의 30년 됐네요. 그런데 왜 저는 한번도 안읽어봤는지 참...

다음은 위키피디아에 실린 내용입니다. 첫번째 3가지 습관은 독립성(independence)을 위한, 다음 3가지 습관은 타인과의 협력(interdependence)을 위한, 마지막은 이 6가지를 지속적으로 개선하기위한 습관입니다.

성공하는 사람들의 7가지 습관

• 습관1: 자신의 삶을 주도하라 (Be proactive)

인생의 코스를 스스로 선택하라. 성공하는 사람들은 자신이 할 수 없는 일에 집착하거나 외부의 힘에 반응하는 대신, 할 수 있는 일에 집중하며 자신의 선택과 결과에 책임을 진다.

• 습관2: 끝을 생각하며 시작하라 (Begin with the end in mind)

자신이 어디로 향하고 있는지 알기 위해서는 전반적인 인생목표를 포함해 최종목표를 정해야 한다.

• 습관3: 소중한 것을 먼저하라 (Put first things first)

긴급함이 아니라 중요성을 기반으로 업무 우선순위를 정하고 습관 2에서 정한 목표성취를 돕는 계획을 세워라. 우선순위에 따라 업무를 수행하라.

• 습관4: 윈 - 윈을 생각하라 (Think win-win)

쌍방에 도움이 되는 해결책을 추구하라.

• 습관5: 먼저 이해하고 다음에 이해시켜라 (Seek first to understand, then to be understood)

상호존중하는 환경을 조성하고 문제를 효과적으로 해결하기 위해서는 타인의 말을 경청하고 열린 자세를 가져야 한다. 이로써 상대도 같은 태도를 보이도록 유도할 수 있다.

• 습관6: 시너지를 내라 (Synergize)

혼자서 달성할 수 없는 목표를 이루기 위해 팀을 활용하라. 팀원들의 최대성과를 이끌어내기 위해 유의미한 공헌과 최종목표를 장려하라.

• 습관7: 끊임없이 쇄신하라 (Sharpen the saw)

장기적으로 성공하기 위해서는 기도나 명상, 운동과 봉사활동, 고무적인 독서를 통해 몸과 마음, 영혼을 건강하게 유지하고 쇄신해야 한다.

영어Wikipedia에도 요약이 잘 되어있네요.

The 7 Habits

The book first introduces the concept of paradigm shift and helps the reader understand that different perspectives exist, i.e. that two people can see the same thing and yet differ with each other. On this premise, it introduces the seven habits in a proper order.

Each chapter is dedicated to one of the habits, which are represented by the following imperatives:

Independence

The First Three Habits surround moving from dependence to independence (i.e., self-mastery):

1 - Be proactive

Talks about the concept of Circle of Influence and Circle of Concern. Work from the center of your influence and constantly work to expand it. Don't sit and wait in a reactive mode, waiting for problems to happen (Circle of Concern) before taking action.

2 - Begin with the end in mind

Envision what you want in the future so you can work and plan towards it. Understand how people make decisions in their life. To be effective you need to act based on principles and constantly review your mission statement. Are you - right now - who you want to be? What do I have to say about myself? How do you want to be remembered? If habit 1 advises to change your life to act and be proactive, habit 2 advises that you are the programmer! Grow and stay humble.

3 - Put first things first

Talks about difference between Leadership and Management. Leadership in the outside world begins with personal vision and personal leadership. Talks about what is important and what is urgent. Priority should be given in the following order:

1) Important and not Urgent

2) Important and Urgent

3) Not Important and Urgent

4) Not Important and not Urgent

By working on 1) crises, that are a dominion of 2) should happen much less often.

If habit 2 advises that you are the programmer, habit 3 advises: write the program. Become a leader! Keep personal integrity: what you say vs what you do.

Interdependence

The next three habits talk about Interdependence (e.g., working with others):

4 - Think win-win

Genuine feelings for mutually beneficial solutions or agreements in your relationships. Value and respect people by understanding a "win" for all is ultimately a better long-term resolution than if only one person in the situation had gotten their way. Think Win-Win isn't about being nice, nor is it a quick-fix technique. It is a character-based code for human interaction and collaboration.

5 - Seek first to understand, then to be understood

Use empathetic listening to genuinely understand a person, which compels them to reciprocate the listening and take an open mind to being influenced by you. This creates an atmosphere of caring, and positive problem solving.

The Habit 5 is greatly embraced in the Greek philosophy represented by 3 words:

1) Ethos - your personal credibility. It's the trust that you inspire, your Emotional Bank Account.

2) Pathos is the empathetic side -- it's the alignment with the emotional trust of another person communication.

3) Logos is the logic -- the reasoning part of the presentation.

The order is important: ethos, pathos, logos -- your character, and your relationships, and then the logic of your presentation.

6 - Synergize

Combine the strengths of people through positive teamwork, so as to achieve goals that no one could have done alone.

Continual improvement

The final habit is that of continuous improvement in both the personal and interpersonal spheres of influence.

7 - Sharpen the Saw

Balance and renew your resources, energy, and health to create a sustainable, long-term, effective lifestyle. It primarily emphasizes exercise for physical renewal, good prayer (meditation, yoga, etc.) and good reading for mental renewal. It also mentions service to society for spiritual renewal.

Covey explains the "Upward Spiral" model in the sharpening the saw section. Through our conscience, along with meaningful and consistent progress, the spiral will result in growth, change, and constant improvement. In essence, one is always attempting to integrate and master the principles outlined in The 7 Habits at progressively higher levels at each iteration. Subsequent development on any habit will render a different experience and you will learn the principles with a deeper understanding. The Upward Spiral model consists of three parts: learn, commit, do. According to Covey, one must be increasingly educating the conscience in order to grow and develop on the upward spiral. The idea of renewal by education will propel one along the path of personal freedom, security, wisdom, and power.